on saying yes.

On Wednesday, we had a girls’ night at one of my new favorite events here in New York City — Changemaker Chats. I learned about this awesome organization from a sorority sister a few months ago, and I’ve been lucky enough to attend a few of the Chats since then. The Changemakers are active in eight cities, and if you have a chapter where you live, I would definitely recommend checking it out. Once a month, they bring a butt-kicking female leader, influencer, or entrepreneur to speak casually about her experiences in work and life, and it’s just a really cool opportunity to listen to a successful person share their insights. I absolutely love these events, and it’s been fun sharing it with my friends, too. Even my mom has gotten in on the fun! She took the bus in for just a few hours on Wednesday so she could join us for the Chat. This month’s event was hosted at HBO HQ, so there were obviously photos involved.

One of the best things about Changemaker Chats is that the conversations are off the record, which makes them all the more honest and comfortable. Because of this rule, I’m not going to share the details of Wednesday’s event (you’ll just have to come check out the next Chat to see what it’s about!), but the amazing speaker did get my wheels turning with one simple thing she said, and I wanted to tell you about it.


It’s a philosophy I’ve heard from several inspirational writers and speakers over the years (as a diehard Housewives and Bethenny Frankel fan, I devoured A Place of Yes when it came out a few years ago), and each time I’m reminded of it, I realize how important it is. It’s taken on a whole new meaning in the adventure I’ve been on this past year.

I’ve been pretty honest with you lately about the moments of doubt I’ve had, the growing pains I’ve been experiencing as a person working out on my own, and the many questions I’ve been asking myself about whether or not I’m using my time wisely and pursuing the right things. Last night’s words of wisdom felt like just the advice I needed, and I’m going to try to keep them front of mind as I move into my second year of writing.

Saying yes to opportunities that come my way instead of overthinking whether or not they’re the “right” opportunities. Saying yes to meeting new people and hearing what they have to say. Saying yes to sharing my story with people who are interested. Saying yes to jumping headfirst into whatever work is on my plate each day. Saying yes to meetings and coffee dates. Saying yes to new projects and opportunities, even if they feel overwhelming or out of my comfort zone. Saying yes, yes, YES. It’s an easy philosophy to remember, and one that I think is going to lead me in the right direction with my writing. And if it leads me to a wrong turn now and then, at least I’ll have tried a lot of things. Right?


It’s my new motto, an easy-to-remember little mantra.

Say YES to a great weekend, everyone. You all are awesome, and I can’t wait to see you back here next week : )



2 thoughts on “on saying yes.

  1. nadine Mims says:


    I too took the plunge a little over a year ago and went to a start up from a behemoth of a publishing house which you are familiar with. It has been a very interesting year of learning and growing and saying yes to many opportunities that I did not think were possible in my career. It has been enlightening, but I caution you on saying yes too much. There is just so much of you to go around and you need to breathe and self reflect. As a mom, I started saying yes at work, yes for my kids, yes for my husband and forgot to say yes for me. I have learned the hard way and you need to say yes to YOU too!!!

    Take care and I am so proud of your journey and where you have already gone and where you are headed.

    Continued blessings,

    Liked by 1 person

    • alli hoff kosik says:

      Thanks so much for the note, Nadine! I really appreciate your support, as well as your advice. You’re right — it’s easy to allow yourself to be spread too thin, and it’s definitely something I want to be mindful of as I try to take on more things at work. I’m sure when you throw kids into the mix, it becomes even more difficult!

      I hope your new adventure is going well, too! It’s nice that we have a chance to keep track of each other and keep cheering each other on in this next stage. Sending hugs and all my best!


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